Feeling guilty about my pup
Posted: Sun Dec 06, 2020 10:41 pm
[*]hey everyone, last Halloween I came home to find my little dachshund alfies back legs had stopped working for a second time.
A year prior his legs stopped working and he recovered however the second time the vet stated that this time it’s for good.
We bought him a wheelchair and lots of comfortable bedding and luckily he is still able to go to the bathroom by himself. He still uses diapers though as he has frequent mistakes.
A year into this new life I felt I was coming to terms with the fact my dog is now disabled. He is so sweet and lovable but whenever I look at him all I can see is his legs and my heart sinks a little bit.
On top of that my wife and I have a 1 year old who is a handful. My son is still a little to young to play with alfie as he is always putting his hands in his mouth so my wife says if he plays with alfie we have to watch him like a hawk.
I take him for regular walks, around the block and up to the woods. However when I come home I feel like I don’t give him enough attention, when I’m in my office he is always by my side but since I have my son I’m in there less and less. Alfie is out when we are home but if we are out he is in his crate due to worries of him hurting himself again.
Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with the guilt along with attention?
I’m really struggling here because I love my dog dearly, many people say I should give him up but I can’t, I made the choice to love and give him the best life I can but I can’t continue feeling this bad.
Please help.
A year prior his legs stopped working and he recovered however the second time the vet stated that this time it’s for good.
We bought him a wheelchair and lots of comfortable bedding and luckily he is still able to go to the bathroom by himself. He still uses diapers though as he has frequent mistakes.
A year into this new life I felt I was coming to terms with the fact my dog is now disabled. He is so sweet and lovable but whenever I look at him all I can see is his legs and my heart sinks a little bit.
On top of that my wife and I have a 1 year old who is a handful. My son is still a little to young to play with alfie as he is always putting his hands in his mouth so my wife says if he plays with alfie we have to watch him like a hawk.
I take him for regular walks, around the block and up to the woods. However when I come home I feel like I don’t give him enough attention, when I’m in my office he is always by my side but since I have my son I’m in there less and less. Alfie is out when we are home but if we are out he is in his crate due to worries of him hurting himself again.
Does anyone have any advice on how to cope with the guilt along with attention?
I’m really struggling here because I love my dog dearly, many people say I should give him up but I can’t, I made the choice to love and give him the best life I can but I can’t continue feeling this bad.
Please help.