But he is happy most of the time and cute and loving life.
I'm glad you took your girl in for the meet and greet! I woudl let the rescue you got her from know all teh stuff that was found, try not to be toooooo angry at them about it. I would say something like "so, I took her in to meet my vet and I cant' believe what we found, this and this and this, but I have her all taken care of now. She will be a new kitten in a day or two." that makes you come out sounding good and who knows maybe they will feel like they can ask you quesitons later if they ever need advice. I try to look at screw ups as opportunities to educaet people. Mind you, this frame of mind and restraining my temper is easiest over the computer, it proves much harder in person where I'm prone to screech "You idiot! How did you miss this?"
The Bendy Mom in person isn't so well thought out as she is on the computer. the benefits of technology.
Give your girl a smooch for me, and Bob too.
I use Arm and Hammer for sensitive skin when I machien wash. Tide makes me itch and I don't like the smell. I also find for the really stinky laundry, like say if darling Russell has decided to pee on the already dirty, stinky, cat laundry, thank you so much kitty, I will add white vinegar too. It helps with the smell. I also do an extra wash, just water, afterwards.
I tend to tell people what we're doing rather than ask....probably why I don't mesh well with many groups.
I like the "Free and Clear" varieties of liquid detergent. My favorite is Sun Free and Clear from Big Lots, 50 loads for $2.50. For ground in solids, I pretreat with OxyClean Free (green lid). Sometimes they only have the perfumey kind which I can't stand, so when I see the OxyClean Free in the store I have learned to buy half a dozen bottles.
On spaying a pet you are expressing, you want a vet with good surgical skills to do it, one who understands you are going to be squeezing the abdomen post surgery. The vet may put in extra stitches, and there is some leeway on where the actual incision is made so your vet may be able to put the incision closer to the ribs. Definitely discuss it with the vet beforehand and be sure to remind them that this is the cat who will be expressed when you take her in for her spay.
(My experience is based on dogs.)
I buy diapers in bulk, also tend to get them donated Butterbean puts out pleas on his page on Facebook when we need supplies.
Keep fighting for her! Many people here on handicappedpets have proved vets wrong! A good vet will be able to admit it.
Mineral oil can be used as a laxative, yes, it is very effective, when my guys aer having issues I mix about a half a ml into their food, in addition to everything else they get. It is sort of an old-timey, folk cure for earmites, too, it smothers them. I don't know that it actually cleans ears. $15 for an exam is an amazing price. Exams here are clsoe to $50, and my vet is one of the lowest cost in this area.
that is really really wierd about Facebook. You were on for what, three days? You can always make another account using another email addy with another name. I have one set up like that just in case I get locked out again. I think often to resolve issues FB just roles dice or flips a coin, they make no sense!!
getting out a situation without killing anyone is always good. I have often told myself, if I go to prison, what will happen to my cats? It's the best incentive I can think of. Don't be shy about telling her that you have been discussing her and Bob's care with other people who have incontinent animals, and have had them for years, let her know you have a support network, if it comes up again.
I did take Butterbean to an Internal Medicine specialist to see about more ideas for his gut motility issues. She looked at his xrays (everything in him is in teh wrong place) showed them to me and said "is this normal for him?" I was able to identify everything (my regular vet always goes over all scans and tests with me) and verify that yes he is just put together very very strangely. She said I probably knew more about him than she did. We talked about gut motility and she did make one suggestion that was very helpful. instead of pumpkin, we're now using psyllium husk, it makes everything sort of gooey, which is what his gut needs to be able to pass stool. He cannot pass solid stool. He just gets clogged, then severely dehydrated. not good.
One vet, ages ago, I yelled at I was soo mad, after I fisnished yelling that I had read up on my little guy's care and knew what was involved blahblahblah she backed down, looked surprised and said "really? you have?" I guess most people don't. well, I'm not most people. I still worried about leaving him with her, but she did the surgery (PU surgery, he needed a new opening to pee out of). there were a million other screwups but that was more front desk stuff. I don't go back there. I'm fortunate that there are vet clinics all over the place here including four specialty vets within 60 miles.